This entry isn't about hair or food, its about getting over a break up and finding yourself again. Me and my boyfriend recently split after a two and a half year long relationship. I know you're probably saying two and a half years ain't nothing to bat an eye at, but its significant to me. It's hard getting over a break up, especially when things ended at your own hand. The blame and self loathing are a lot to get over but I am making due. I've had time to think about things. The first day I didn't want to get out of bed or eat, but over the last few weeks I have learned a few things that help out a lot when getting over a break up.
1. Stop blaming yourself
Sure things may have been different had you done this or that differently. You cant live in the "shoulda coulda woulda", because things are the way they are and you can't change them. Accept the situation for what it is. You may get back together one day but you have to get over things first.
2. Don't live on the hope that you are going to get back together
Like I said this could very well happen in the future. The both of you have to make sure you are ready, and not just staying with whats familiar vs what is really best for you. If you keep basing your life round this person who is no longer there you might miss out on opportunities that could put you in a better situation.You may always love you ex but don't let that stop you from finding love again. Your "Prince Charming" could be right in front of you and you will miss it because you are still looking behind you.
3. Surround yourself with great friends and family
This by far has been the most beneficial. Don't sit at home by yourself and dwell on things all day. The sadness will consume you. By surrounding yourself with awesome people that make you laugh, you wont have a chance to be sad. By doing things with them you won't have time to think about what you had, only what you have. You begin to realize that life isn't over and there are people that will always love you, and that's a great feeling.
4. Find a passion
If you are like me then you put your heart and soul into your relationship and you lost site of the things you once loved. Now that you have the time go revisit these things. I am getting back into a healthy lifestyle and reading. I am also getting into new things like Yoga. Finding something you love will make you feel better over all as a person.
5. Learn to be content by yourself.
The one thing we all get hooked on in a relationship is the companionship. Having someone to wake up to, go to sleep with, and talk to all day whenever you want, its great. Getting over not having this is hard and honestly I have no fix for this. Over time you have to get used to not having someone there all the time. You can only hang out with friends and do little activities for so long. You are going to be alone sometimes with no one to talk to and nothing to do. Don't slip into sadness though just think about all of the good things in your life and keep the positive vibes going. Limit the idle time and find something good to focus on.
Everyone has there way of finding happiness after a break up these are just a few things worth trying. They have worked for me and a few others I know in the same situation. Overall just give things time, they will get better. You wont be sad forever. Now put on your favorite dress, make yourself pretty and go hit the town. You might just meet someone new.
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